Tit for Tat

Last night, I took a quick look at my friend’s linked in page and noticed that he now lists R and Matlab as skills. I wrote to him saying that I was impressed by that and wanted him to check out a personal project I was working on.

Today, I receive an email from a complete stranger saying that he saw I list my python skills and wanted to see if I was interested in his project. The second email is strikingly similar to my email to my friend, “hi Huan”, it starts very friendly, “I was looking at your profile and was impressed by your python skills”, almost word for word what I said except with R and Matlab… “I have a project here..” exactly what I said to my friend in my own email. exactly same order.

Now, these two events occurring in close proximity is not evidence that there’s causal relationship. However, I, having never sent or received either of those emails before in my life suddenly having both occurring at once makes me feel that somehow the latter event was triggered by the prior event.

mind racing thread 1: That other person read my personal email to my friend and assumed that I picked on a random person I met on LinkedIn and sent an inappropriate solicitation email. (note I typed the email I sent in a linkedin message box, but ended up copying and pasting it into a gmail mail because I knew his email address), So this vigilante do-gooder netizen decides to take it upon him to point out to me how it feel to be on the receiving end. Great! Thank you for the email, it feels great to be appreciated. My Python skills are quite fine and I am proud of it.

mind racing thread 2: hmmm… I don’t have a second thought about this. There is not a shred of suspicion in my mind that my friend could be the person sending that email or that he could be upset by my emailing him. He cannot be that bored knowing what I know about very recent changes in his personal life

mind racing thread 3: hmmm. I don’t have a third thought about this except that somebody at LinkedIn saw a draft copy of an email that I didn’t send in LinkedIn and decided to “punish me” for almost behaving in a way that LinkedIn prefer that I do not behave in. Fair enough, if it was my business I’d want to do the same thing–I wouldn’t actually do it, but I would probably want it really badly to reduce elements damaging to the operation of my business.

Now that I think back to the days when I wondered about the Golden and Silver rules of ethics, and how there could be a dedicated space for tit-for-tat behavior, I realize that there was a very very good reason why I feel such urge to think about this matter.

Tit-for-tat behavior is not efficient communication. I would so much more rather for linkedin, or google, or whomever causing those mimicking emails I sent to my friend to just say to me what it is that they want–and I do not believe it’s python coder that they want.

@LinkedIn, just write me an email and say, Huan, don’t send random stranger emails. and I can explain that that’s a good friend and not a complete random stranger

@Gmail readers, Dude, I know that guy, it’s not a completely random recruiting email.

@Yet a thirdparty reading my email… what is it that you want? Is it not enough that you read my email? Why make this gesture? It accomplishes nothing except for make me write in my blog instead of working or resting.

U! & W?

G! & T?

H! & F?

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